For some reason I have always kind of adored her. She played my favorite X-Man (Rogue) in the earlier X-Man movies. I loved her slightly non-traditional beauty. Don’t get me wrong; she is obviously gorgeous, but she also has what some people would call flaws. Namely she has her front-teeth gap that she has refused to alter; I think that’s perfect! She has a sweetness about her that allows her to do well as Sookie Stackhouse in True Blood. She fakes her Northern Louisiana (where I am from; and where True Blood takes place) pretty damned well for a Canadian gal! So, as far as actresses go, she has been on my “favorites” list for quite a while, now. I didn’t realize that I love Anna Paquin until a couple of days ago however. |
| Also, I love her hair now. |
tabloid at the grocery store or random celebrity trash post on Jezebel (I am currently following the Bieber/Legolas battle with some glee). I had no idea that Anna was bisexual until a couple of days ago when I read about her tweets and her awkward interview with Larry King (of all people). I knew she was married to the ridiculously hot Stephen Moyer (“Vampire Biiiiill” from True Blood) and made an assumption based on my own life about her sexual preference. See, I am bisexual, but I am monogamously married to a man. Yes, I just “came out” on my blog; and yes, I am fairly sure no one will read it since no one reads my blog. I guess that I decided that being bi didn’t “count” since I have taken myself out of the market of dating people of any gender by being monogamous. I was never out as anything but a straight girl except to girls I was involved with, so I guess I decided to disregard my bisexuality since it wasn’t a real factor anymore. But, you know what? It is. It matters to me. On my journey of finding self-love and self-acceptance every aspect of who I am matters and is worthy of acceptance by myself and by those who would be my friends and family. Anna helped me realize, in 140 characters or less, that who I am in love with does not cancel out who I am.
Anna elaborated on her statement in her interview with Larry King, and I found that every word of what she said rang true for me. Here is an excerpt from the interview with King, from Advocate.com:
King: "Are you a non-practicing bisexual?"I think that when people find out someone is bisexual or pansexual and monogamous they assume that the person feels like they are missing out on something. Like, since I am married to a man I am “missing out” on a relationship with a woman. Well, yes and no. Mostly no. I love my husband; I am satisfied with him and I am “happily monogamous”. I don’t feel like I am missing out on anything. I love who I love; it just so happens that I love a man. If I had fallen in love with and married a woman it would not magically turn me into a lesbian. When a straight woman marries a man she doesn’t mourn the loss of having sex with other men. Well… in a healthy, happy relationship she doesn’t.
Paquin: "Well, I am married to my husband and we are happily monogamously married."
King: "But you were bisexual?"
Paquin: "Well, I don’t think it’s a past-tense thing."
Larry King: "No?"
Paquin: "No. Are you still straight if you are with somebody — if you were to break up with them or if they were to die, it doesn’t prevent your sexuality from existing. It doesn’t really work like that."
Is all of this TMI? Probably. It’s not like I am going to win over any friends or family this way. Indeed, knowing my family I will probably lose a few from my social media circles – but you know what? I am okay with that – no actually I am glad for it. I would rather not have bigots and hypocrites in my life. I have long been afraid of what people think of me, but I am at the stage in my life that I am beginning to really not care anymore – and it feels great. I feel so validated, Anna; thanks.
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